The maxim “I think therefore I am” has been lurking in my peripheral vision for as long as I’ve been a thinking person, appearing in textbooks, pleasure reading, and on coffee cups and t-shirts. I’ve never held it as much more than a historical placeholder,...
“ You have much to do. You have to write. You have to speak … you have to shout from the rooftops. And I will be there shouting through you, don’t be worried. You just start, and the remainder I will do.” Osho, The Passion...
You learned about the Gottman’s formula of five statements of praise and gratitude to one correction or request. What if you took this on as a daily discipline to praise, thank, or flirt with your partner five times a day?There are an unlimited number of...
For pure tantric relating you’ll need to do a major housecleaning. Anything still bugging you from the past keeps you from being able to be present with what’s really happening. An example might be if you grew up with a father who was always criticizing...
Tantric relating is about making agreements with your partner that you both want to live in an environment of trust, truth, respect, and open communication about what’s going on for each of you. It sets completely new ground rules for any relationship.What tantra offers is...
It may seem scary or daunting to move from a conventional relating style of being positive and not talking about things to tantric relating where you are living in and honoring the truth. It’s okay to be where you are in the process – it’s...
Tantric relating teaches us to give another person space to be upset. Women especially have been socialized to be so codependent that we rush in and try to fix our partner’s feelings before they’ve even had a chance to feel them. It can be so...
Touch is all-important for tantric relating. Tantrikas practice reminding ourselves that we live in bodies not just heads, and that we want to relate to our beloved from an embodied awareness, not just from our minds analyzing everything. A mind on full-bore analysis mode can...
A relationship is never going to be a finished commodity if you stay alive and growing. It’s true relating can get stale, and either of you could go to sleep. When we saw those types of relationships as kids or as singles, fear loomed in...
Who in the world has ever said, “Please stop saying nice things about me. I’ve had enough”? No one. Who doesn't like to receive praise? In relationships, partners have often gotten into a habit of pointing out what's “wrong” with the other person: what we...