A relationship is never going to be a finished commodity if you stay alive and growing. It’s true relating can get stale, and either of you could go to sleep. When we saw those types of relationships as kids or as singles, fear loomed in...
Who in the world has ever said, “Please stop saying nice things about me. I’ve had enough”? No one. Who doesn't like to receive praise? In relationships, partners have often gotten into a habit of pointing out what's “wrong” with the other person: what we...
Tantra is all about being in the body. Conventional culture is all about living our lives in our heads: thinking, analyzing, judging. Most of us don’t even like our bodies very much. We’ve been taught (relentlessly) by social media and advertising that our bodies are...
If you’re going to have an agreement to bring everything up, you and your partner will most probably need to cultivate a changed attitude from the one you have now. Doing this practice, you’re bound to learn things about yourself that are tough to hear....
Many couples’ relationships are trapped in layers of resentment. The lovers are still unfinished or mad about things that happened a year ago, five years ago, maybe even twenty depending on the length of the relationship. When a couple has gotten into trouble or is...
Everything you haven’t talked about is going to show up in the bedroom. It’s going to appear as “I don’t feel like it,” or “I’m not in the mood,” or you wondering why three months have gone by since the two of you made love....
You’ve made agreements to talk about things when they happen, or at least as soon as possible. You know that by letting misunderstandings fester, you run the risk of them mutating into something else altogether. You see the benefit of talking about each issue until...
If the person sitting in front of you was your Beloved, how would you treat them? I suspect it would be with kindness and love. You would focus on their strengths and good points and ignore what you perceive to be the less-so. (After all,...
Making an agreement to talk about everything creates a safe ambiance, strengthening the climate of trust in your relationship so that you won’t ever have to worry that your partner is keeping something from you. To agree to talk about everything means you know you...
We’re taught from an early age not to speak our truth. We’ll get in trouble if we do, or we’ll be spanked, shamed, or isolated. We learn to sit quietly and behave. Of course, it’s good not to let children run around screaming in restaurants...