09 Sep Tantra for Emotional Healing
Because you’re reading this book, I know you’re on a personal and spiritual growth path and that you’ve already made progress healing your childhood wounds. It’s not news to you that if you were abused physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually in childhood, adult relationships might be a bit of a rough going. It’s not your fault, but it is your responsibility to heal this earlier part of your life if you want the best sex, love, and romance possible.
You may have already been in psychotherapy, and if you haven’t, you may want to start. You’ve probably read some helpful books and online articles. That trauma you experienced may have taken the following forms:
• Your parents may have criticized your body, your intelligence, how you expressed your emotions, your interests, or your beliefs.
• Your parents or other adults may have abused you.
• You may have had heavy religious indoctrination that doesn’t fit for you anymore.
• You may have been taught to be embarrassed about being naked, or about expressing your sexuality or your joy in being embodied.
• You may have not lived up to the standards of attractiveness harshly imposed on you by your peers and the media, and thus struggle with feeling attractive today.
What does the healing of childhood wounds have to do with tantric healing? The more healed you are, the more healed a partner you will attract, and the more fun you can have together rather than living through the drama of each other’s messy pasts. Here’s an example: Olivia grew up in a home where there was a lot of shouting, emotional tension, andconstant put-downs. When she left home for college, she attracted partners who were, guess what: emotionally abusive and critical. We all learn about love from the way our family acted when we were growing up, and Olivia was no different. Through psychotherapy she learned to identify abusive behavior and demand something more affectionateand caring. Her next partner never shouted or put her down.
Depending on the degree of difficulty you experienced as a child, it may take you longer or shorter time to heal, but no matter how long, your work will pay off and create the loving relationship your heart desires. Keep at it until it’s done. You can’t imagine how great it will be.
© 2026 Catherine Auman
This is an excerpt from Catherine Auman’s book Tantric Healing: Nourishing Practices for Enhancing Sex, Love and Romance