Exercise #4: Clean Sweep

03 Aug Exercise #4: Clean Sweep

For pure tantric relating you’ll need to do a major housecleaning. Anything still bugging you from the past keeps you from being able to be present with what’s really happening. An example might be if you grew up with a father who was always criticizing you, you imagine your partner is putting you down when they are not. The past mistreatment has not been resolved, and you’re seeing your partner through the eyes of that little person you once were.

This clean sweep can be done in psychotherapy or in any of the other processes mentioned previously. You can also journal, create art about it, or join a therapy or 12-step group. Many people are willing and skilled in how to help you with “cleaning out the basement.” The sooner you start, the sooner you’ll be able to live in the present moment instead of being mired in the past.

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If you’re currently in a relationship, the two of you most probably have unresolved issues from the past: arguments that were never resolved, talks about your sex life that need to happen, differences in style in spending habits, child raising, and future goals. All these matters that need to be settled keep you from being able to have clear, flowing energy between the two of you.

Past issues that we as a couple need to talk through to completion are:

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© 2022 Catherine Auman

This is an excerpt from Catherine Auman’s book, Tantric Relating: Relationship Advice to Find and Keep Sex, Love and Romance. This book is the third title in the Tantric Mastery Series. Check it out!

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