Challenging the Conventional Mindset

10 Nov Challenging the Conventional Mindset

To become a free human being, it’s essential to examine conventional beliefs and expectations and discard those that don’t fit the world you want to create. Take some time and think through these commonly held “truths,” and consider if you want to keep believing them or throw them out. Write your preferred attitude in the space below. An alternative mindset is offered for the first piece of conventional teaching.

• Young people are more attractive than older people.

Example of a possible new chosen mindset: Attractiveness is actually enhanced by age due to a person’s increasing sense of wisdom, self-esteem, and life mastery.

• The definition of who is “attractive” should be defined by advertising and social media.

• I can’t help who I’m attracted to – it’s in my DNA.

• Conventionally good-looking people are better candidates for love.

• Men want sex; women want love.

• Friendship means the death of sexual attraction.

• Marriage means sex goes downhill.

• People get less interested in sex as they get older, and if they don’t, it’s kind of gross.

• A sign of true love is that your partner can read your mind and fulfill your wishes without you having to do or say anything

• Soulmates happen magically – it’s either a soulmate relationship or it’s not, and there’s nothing you can do about it.

• Men lose freedom in marriage (“the old ball and chain”).

• One person becomes the boss in the relationship. If it’s the woman, the man’s masculinity is in question.

• There exists a war between the sexes.

• Traditional sex roles should be reverted to for relationships to work.

• Everyone else is having great, trouble-free sex.

• I can’t find a soulmate because I am too … (short, fat, old, poor, smart …. ).

• It means men don’t love their partners if they don’t do traditional things such as buy roses.

• Relationships are hard.

• Love happens by magic, and the best thing we can do is wait passively for its arrival.

• It’s my partner’s responsibility to keep the love, sex, and romance going in the relationship.

© 2022 Catherine Auman

This is an excerpt from Catherine Auman’s book, Tantric Mating: Using Tantric Secrets to Create a Relationship Full of Sex, Love and Romance. Tantric Mating is a companion to her previous book Tantric Dating: Bringing Love and Awareness to the Dating Process named by BookAuthority as one of the Best Dating Books of All Time.

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