Society is designed to lure you away from being intimate with others because you are not spending any money during this time. Intimacy is the enemy of consumerism because your sense of well-being is so greatly enhanced that you do not need to buy material goods to be happy. – Peter Rengel
I first met Peter Rengel as one of the facilitators of the Love, Intimacy and Sexuality workshops at the Human Awareness Institute (HAI). They’re up in the Bay Area, and I learned a great deal while moving up to Level Four in their system. I also worked individually with Peter as my therapist, so I was lucky to learn a lot from this man whose life mission is to “to help people love themselves more” How awesome is that?
Peter pointed out, as in the quote above, that society is designed to seduce you away from being intimate with others because you won’t spend money if you’re in love and satisfied. If you’re in love and fulfilled, what do you need to buy?
I checked this out with a friend of mine who’s been married for 25 years. He said oh yeah, he and his wife just work, stay in and cook, watch movies, and make love, and that’s about all they do. They are very happy with their lives.
Think how much money is spent in the dating process; it’s a whole industry. You have to spend money on your dates, you have buy food, and drink more alcohol than you usually drink. You have to buy dating clothes, which for girls have to be sexy. Guys have to show off how much money they make. Certain restaurants position themselves as for dating as well as certain hip bars, and there are pricey singles’ events and online dating sites to join. It’s a multi-million dollar business to keep you single and unhappy, because if you fall in love and fall out of all that and therefore aren’t spending any money, society will stop. So the whole shebang is anti-love, as Peter pointed out, which is really mind boggling.
You’ll also notice it’s no accident that the conventional dating mindset is the consumer model in which you are looking to acquire a high-value item, and then when that one is used up, you purchase another that is presumably more “expensive.”
© 2017 Catherine Auman This article is an excerpt from Catherine’s book Tantric Dating: Bringing Love and Awareness to the Dating Process